Iyer banega gentleman

Ask anyone who knows me whether i am a gentleman ?

Most probably you will get a fairly animated description implying how unrefined I am. So I have decided its time i changed for good. But before that I need to know what wrong am I doing? OK then may be a list of what i am wrong in be good thing to start with.

1] I speak a very rude language
2] I speak an abusive language
3] I make too much fun of others
4] I behave in a kiddish fashion

Well in a public platform these are enough of derogatory statements self said. But i must say that i have been told these things my many people specially friends who really know me well. So from today onwards I am gonna change my ways to become someone who reflects my inner feelings. Because as I am now, hardly anyone will ever be able to know me better.

Is it that important for me you ask ?? Well, not at all I just have the habit to try everything behaviorally possible. I  have played many tints vis-a-vis my behavior. I have been a nerd, an almost outcast, a bully, a flirt, a lover and many shades of many feelings I just haven't played a gentleman. It seems being a gentleman really helps, though I haven't really had any problems being like this, I don't thing its not worth trying.

So for starters on a personal level I am gonna curb on my natural instincts of abusive language when I am amongst guys. May be I will try and bite myself when ever I utter a slang. May be i will tie a knot on my finger or may be i will think i am talking to a girl. Some how I am gonna stop it.

Secondly I will stop incessantly joking with people. I wanna stop being rude to people {even though I seem rude because of their low sense of humor}. People may think i have become gloomy but so be it. Unless i become aware of what to say where I am not gonna joke.

That shall be all for today .....Lets see whether Iyer banta hai Gentleman...

My good deed...

In school we had a lesson in which we were taught that everyday we should do something good. it was in English subject and the story went that a person used to appreciate someone or the other for his/her work. Thus the person being appreciated used to feel good.

Well today i decided that i will follow that as an axiom, everyday i will appreciate a common man for his service/work. And boy i started quiet well.

In morning i had to wake up early to go to the hospital for some reason. i hired an auto, after getting down from the auto i said to the autowalla, " brother [he was of my age only] you drove very sensibly" then so that he does not feel awkward [people tend to feel somthing fishy if they are complimented for an unusual thing] i added " is it everyday or is today just an exception" he replied "no boss [in Bombay [sorry MNS] we address same age ppl commonly as boss ] I don’t like to drive rashly, its my own rickshaw and not a rented one"

i probed him further " does that mean if it was a rented one then u will drive recklessly?" he said " no i drive fast only sometimes that too when the road is deserted, else i like it smooth"

i was quiet delighted at the civilized Samaritan. And I rewarded him 5 rupees extra and said “ You are a good autowalla, we don’t get to see many like you, good job keep it up “

he was visibly happy, and I too felt the satisfaction of making ones day. That’s exactly when i was reminded of the lesson and decided to put it into practice everyday. As it is I am infamous for my sarcasm, I hope I will learn to keep it out. 

i also appeal all of you to try this. its quiet satisfying to see someone smile because of your words alone.